In this election year we are certainly hearing our share of promises, hyperbole, pledges and double-talk. Often, I don’t know who or what to believe. I suspect I’m not alone. Regardless of your political ideology or personal party preference, one thing I feel confident in saying is this: No candidate is exhibiting a measure of congruence commensurate with their message points. Simply said, no one is walking their talk. Sadly, this is not a new phenomenon.
A congruent leader is the best kind of leader. A congruent leader is one who attracts and maintains a strong team. A congruent leader is comfortable walking in other people’s shoes and likely has done so. A congruent leader builds trust and support through their actions – not just their words.
I’m sure you’ve heard the phrase “that person talks a good game.” Unfortunately, talking a good game is becoming an art that is inhibiting growth and success in business, education, and our economy.
I’ve interviewed hundreds of people over the years. A polished interviewee has their message points and delivers them to the best of their ability. The key to finding the best candidate is asking about or understanding the accomplishments and results of the interviewee.
I’ve always been partial to result-oriented, thoughtful, congruent people. I tend to shy away from people who are long on sound bites and short on examples of their results.
Over the years, I’ve found the best place to look for a congruent person is in a volunteer organization. Usually that person is sharing their time and talents for the right reasons. They are there to support a cause or belief greater than themselves.
Years ago I met a couple of interviewees. Within five minutes it was obvious through their words and behavior they were not right for the job. They were consumed with what was in it for each of them. The decision to hire was not mine. To make a long story short, it took five years to rectify that hiring and even longer to recover from the damage done.
Recently, I had the great fortune to meet another couple. They weren’t interviewees. Instead they were humble, congruent, thoughtful volunteers. They are good communicators, but don’t use their words to self-promote. Their quiet effective actions speak volumes on their behalf.
So often we look to what someone says to inspire us. But personally, I’ve been inspired by this couple’s actions and results. You see, a congruent person who walks their talk has a FAR lasting effect on those around them. This couple’s behavior challenges me to want to do more and make a difference.
The world needs more people like this lady and man. Frankly, I long for that congruent person who makes a difference by what they accomplish rather than what they say.
Until next time…..