This past week, I had the good fortune of working at the U.S. Kids Teen Golf Championships. I was eager to meet the 125 golfers from around the world. Each one 13 years of age.

I’m not exaggerating when I say they came from around the world. Countries like, China, India, Peru, Germany, South Africa, Canada and of course the USA. They came from larger metropolitan areas like Singapore, Lima, Hong Kong, Mexico City, Miami, Boston and New York. And ventured from small towns like Ona, West Virginia and Holly Springs, North Carolina. Each one competing for a teen world championship. Besides every young man being 13 they had other similar characteristics. All were well-mannered, gracious, respectful, poised and positive. Everyone seemed happy to be there. They all shook hands before teeing off and shook hands on the 18th green.

Every 13 year old was impressive in their own right, but of the 125 participants I was struck by four, particularly. The first was from West Virginia. He was outgoing, friendly and possessed a fluid swing as he attacked the ball. He had a rough first day. When I checked him in on day two he acknowledged his difficult round, but assured me today was a new day and he would be better. Indeed he was better, by 12 shots. He said, it really didn’t matter how he scored. He was just happy to be there playing. His family members were the most complimentary of any group participating.

I was also impressed by a golfer from Georgia. Through a misunderstanding he showed up to his day two tee time late. His group had already teed off and were preparing to hit their approach shots to the first green. He was informed he would be allowed to play, but had to take a 10 on the first hole. Off he went to play 17 holes. Understandably shaken by the circumstances, he hit two balls out of bounds on the second hole and took a nine. He finished the day with a 95. Many kids would have packed their clubs and clothes and headed home. Not this fella. For day three he arrived 30 minutes ahead of his tee time. His eyes were steely, but his smile was charming. He finished his third round with a 79. I was able to visit with him after the round and his smile was even wider than when he had teed off. I told him I knew he would play well when I looked into his eyes and saw his determination. I told him I admired his courage to come back and prove to himself what a competitor he was. His smile grew even wider.

The third golfer was a player from Pennsylvania. When I say “player” I mean he could really play the game of golf. For three rounds he shot under par and finished fifth overall. Very impressive to say the least. But his scores are not what I will remember. What gave me a thrill was his humility and his character. You see his caddy was his mother. I had teased him after his sensational first round telling him how fortunate he was to have such an outstanding caddy. Without batting an eye he said, “She made all the difference in the world.” His mother blushed profusely and explained to me, she knew very little about golf, but wanted to be there to push the cart and not just be a spectator.” I was so impressed that this handsome kid had already learned the importance of sharing the credit and understanding that you get far more than you give. His mother was obviously far more than a cart pusher. She was a teacher of values and principles. A terrific teacher.

The fourth golfer was from South Africa. I knew this “chap” was special from our first introductions. “Good day mate!” he said putting out his hand to greet me. His smile exposed two large dimples and the gleam in his eyes were like two freshly lit candles. He didn’t look 13 – more like 10, but he carried himself like he was in his 20’s. He was charismatic and a delightful conversationalist. He was the first to extend a hand in introductions, and always wished his fellow participants well. Following a challenging first day he reported for day two with even more enthusiasm. “I didn’t play as well as I could have, but today is a beautiful day and I will play better.” His positive attitude led him to a six shot improvement and the next day he nearly matched that score. This “mate” was playing for the right reasons. To compete against the golf course and have fun. He succeeded on both counts.

Four quick stories. I could share 120 more. Every one of these 13 year old men has a story. But I was taken by these four golfers because of one more reason – their parents.

It was so obvious these four have been raised to understand what matters most in life – your values, your character, your integrity. These set of parents didn’t make excuses when their sons played below average. They didn’t gloat when they had a good round. They didn’t live vicariously through their child. All four parents were actively involved in their son’s participation. Whether they were on the bag as a caddy (as four parents were) or they were walking 18 holes and encouraging from the gallery. I have no idea what these parents do for a living, but their most important job is raising their offspring. From the examples of those three days, they have been doing a super job!

I’ve always said you can learn more about a person in a four hour round of golf then you can working with them for a year. I guess I can same the same thing about a parent/child relationship on the golf course. It was gratifying, encouraging and certainly gave me hope for the future.

Until next time…

I’ve been in coaching roles during most of my adult life. Coaching in sports, with volunteer organizations and throughout my career. I have a presentation based on Don Shula and Ken Blanchard’s book called “Everyone’s a Coach.” We have all been or will be in coaching situations. Be it at home or in the professional world, a good coach teaches, encourages, develops, provides guidance, examples and support.

My most memorable “coachable moments” often deal with negative outcomes. Situations where someone didn’t meet their expectations (and likely mine). I recall coaching a baseball game when my player was struggling mightily with the bat. True to his plight, he came to the plate with the bases loaded in the bottom of ninth. We were trailing by a run. As he plodded toward the plate his shoulders slumped and the bill of his blue batting helmet was tugged toward his nose to mask the fear in his eyes. I suspected the pitcher picked up on his body language as well as I had. I quickly called time out. Meeting my player half-way up the third base line he looked up at me with those hollow, scared eyes. I said, “Would you like me pinch hit for you?”

His eyes lit up as he said, “Sure coach, if you think that’s what’s best for the team.”

I smiled and said, “What’s best for the team is for you to forget about everything that has happened before and look forward to how good you are going to feel when you get the winning hit in the bottom of the ninth!” I continued, “You see it doesn’t matter what has transpired up to this point. What matters is what you do next. Now I want you to turn around, race to the batters box, dig in and swing at the first pitch. It’s going to be an inside fastball that you’re going to smack for the game winning hit.”

With renewed confidence, he swung at the first pitch and smashed a single up the middle for the game winning hit. It was a magic moment for him and frankly for me. I have several good memories of coaching moments that turned out positive. But that’s not the point of the story. The point is, we all have slumps. We all make mistakes. We all have shortcomings. We all say and do things we wish we hadn’t done. I’ve learned it doesn’t help to dwell on those slumps, mistakes, shortcomings or errors in action or judgement. What does help is to learn, apply what you’ve learned and move forward.

Do you ever lay in bed at night and think of all the things that went wrong during a day? I have. It’s not a fun way to fall asleep. A much better process is to find a quiet time and place and think about what positive contributions you will make tomorrow.

I could fill these blog posts with hundreds of pages of mistakes I’ve made and things I would do differently. But the only purpose that would serve is to feel sorry for myself and enable a “Victim Mentality.” Woe is NOT me.

What I suggest, and what I continually try to do, is think about what I can do better and how I can approach things in a more positive vein. Then use what I learned from my past which will help me in the future. It’s not always easy to do. As I’ve talked about multiple times, that voice inside your head loves to take over and control you mentally and physically. Don’t let it.

End your day by thinking about tomorrow. Anticipate the goodness that lies ahead of you and look forward to making that tomorrow the best day yet.

Until next time……

For me, the golf swing is a metaphor for life. I’ve been told my golf swing is like a snowflake – no two swings are ever alike. Pretty funny, I know, but sometimes during a round it feels like a true statement.

So why do I say the golf swing (particularly my golf swing) is a metaphor for life? Actually there are various reasons…

As in life, you need to be relaxed, enjoy what you’re doing, don’t try too hard, stress out, or put extra pressure on yourself. At work or on the golf course, being on a team, or a foursome who are encouraging, helpful and enjoyable is a good start to your day or round.

As in life, you need to understand the fundamentals, continually gain knowledge, and put into practice what you learn.

As in life, you should be focused, consistent and understand the difference between right and wrong. You have to know what you are doing wrong and correct it to be successful. I’ve watched people on the driving range make the same mistakes over and over and wonder why they top the ball, slice the ball or hit sharp duck-hooks.

Don Shula, former Super Bowl winning coach for the Miami Dolphins used the term “practice perfection.” He believed if you practiced what you wanted to accomplish during the game you would be ready for anything. You would then react without fear or trepidation.

That same principle applies to the golf swing. Being consistent with your swing allows you to be ready for any situation – regardless of where your ball may lie. If you can stay awake while watching golf on TV, you’ll notice the pros have consistent, panic free swings. It doesn’t matter if they’re in the fairway, the rough, or the bunker.

As in life, you must believe in yourself and trust your judgement. Not trusting my swing, or believing I could make a shot, has cost me countless times. Henry Ford once said “If you think you can or you think you can’t – you’re right.” As in life or swinging the golf club – you must believe in yourself.

I recall with fondness, a mentee who had struggled to get their college degree in their 20’s. Soon their 20’s became their 30’s and they went from single to married with children. It would have been easy to settle – after all raising children is as noble of a profession as there is today. But this person believed in themselves. They put together a plan and a goal and focused on achieving their goal. I know it wasn’t easy, but that belief in one’s ability can overcome many hurdles, challenges and obstacles. Not only did they receive their college degree, they went on to achieve an advance degree in their chosen field.

Now, when I’m faced with a downhill lie, a ball situated under the lip of a yawning pot bunker, or a long fairway wood over a expansive body of water I should remember that mentee. I should select the club, relax and remember the mentee who trusted their ability and accomplished their cherished goal. In comparison, trusting my swing should be an easy task.

I guarantee your life (and my golf swing) will continue to improve if you believe in yourself and keep swinging with joy in your heart and a smile on your face.

Until next time….

It’s that time of year again. The time of year when my mind and the voice inside my mind create more tumult than a pile of autumn leaves in a windstorm. It’s the time of year where I have to focus, really focus, on positive thinking. If I don’t, the voice inside my head can take over. It can drag me down a vortex that is extremely difficult to reverse.

Why this time of year? The falling leaves, the falling temperatures, the shorter days, the longer nights, the holidays, the possibility of catching a cold or the flu or even chapped lips. It’s that depressing, frustrating feeling that the cold wind always seem to be in your face when you’re walking the dog.

Recently, close relatives have been faced with significant illnesses. Staying positive is even more critical when dealing with illness. A person facing the harsh reality of an illness or physical limitation has to focus on things that will put them in a better frame of mind. So much easier said then done when it is not you facing a health challenge. But time and time again I’ve seen people rise above their difficulties to achieve a goal or beat an illness with the help of a positive approach.

Trying to stay positive this time of year is also challenging because of the pressure many people put on themselves. Whether it is the pressure to get holiday cards in the mail, hosting a gathering, or buying the perfect Christmas gift for a friend or family member, the pressure can build like the scalding oil in a turkey fryer.

My daughter was feeling that heat just the other day. She felt like she was running out of time and lacking in creative ideas. To reduce the pressure, we sat down and discussed her thoughts, put things in the proper perspective and prioritized what she was facing. Within 24 hours the pot was no longer boiling and she was ready to face the future.

I know it’s not always that simple. But telling your mind to slow down or stop is the first step. Then taking a moment to re-evaluate the importance and significance of what challenges you may be facing is the next step. It will take your mind out of the downward spiral that can bring both mind and body crashing down. It will make you feel like the wind is actually at your back helping to carry you along.

This time of year can be a lonely time for single people, the elderly, shut-ins and people who cannot be with their loved ones. But it can also be lonely for just about anyone else who is coping with depression, anxiety, financial or health issues. Reaching out to those who you know are lonely or others who you feel are faced with challenges will likely be the best gift you can give this holiday season. The gift of your time, your compassion and your caring way will make a profound and lasting difference in that person’s life. You will be like the wind at their back helping to carry them through a difficult time.

Happy and Healthy Holidays…..

Recently, while driving through south central Ohio, on a rainy Thursday morning, my truck blew a tire. I was fortunate to be near the Washington Court House exit and made it to the bottom of the exit ramp. A shard of metal had sliced the sidewall and the tire was shredded like a head of cabbage about ready to become cole slaw.

I took the key to the back of the truck to unlock the spare. It didn’t work. I tried the spare key without success. I’m not what you would call a handy guy, so I figured it was operator error. I was forced to contact emergency road services. When the man arrived he went through the same process I did with the same result. He said he’d have to get a flat bed tow truck to take me to a dealership. I said there must be an easier way, let me call the dealership where I bought the vehicle. Here’s a little bit how that conversation went:

ME: “I’m sitting in the rain on a highway with a flat tire and can’t remove the spare tire.”

Guy at Dealership: “Oh yeah, that happens sometimes. You’ll have to cut the cable to release the tire.”

ME: “I’m stuck in the rain on a highway in south central Ohio. I don’t have cable cutters. Is this a known defect?”

Guy at Dealership: “Yes, as I said this happens sometimes. Nothing I can do for you. Good luck.”

I emerged from the truck and told the man what had happened. “I’m not surprised,” he said.

While I was waiting, I called the dealership to let them know we’d be coming. Forty minutes later a flat bed truck arrived. The man slid under the truck on the wet muddy shoulder of the exit ramp and hooked it up. Then we both drove to the local dealership. The shop was filled with cars, so I estimated my wait time would be substantial. I was surprised when a man in a blue shirt appeared with my truck less than 30 minutes later.

I asked if I could speak to the service manager to thank him for getting me in and out so quickly. He said, “I am the service manager.”

I was shocked. “Wow” was all I could utter. “I really appreciate it. How much do I owe you?’

“No charge,” he replied with a grin. “From what I know you’ve been waiting long enough and you still have a long way to go. Travel safe.”

I couldn’t thank him enough.

I climbed into my truck and made my way back to the highway. As I drove home I made two hands-free phone calls. The first was to the tow truck driver who had crawled under the truck getting all wet and muddy on my behalf. I thanked him once again and told him he drove away before I could tip him and say thanks. He said, no tip was necessary and that he was just doing his job.

The second call was to the car dealership. The receptionist answered the phone and I asked to speak to the top ranking person at the dealership. The next voice I heard was a strong baritone who identified himself and asked if he could help me. I proceeded to tell him about the amazing customer service I had received from his employees. He said he was glad to hear it and would be sure they knew I had called. He told me they were doing what they were supposed to be doing.

I said, “That may be so, but when you compare how they did their job compared to the dealership where I had purchased my truck, there was no comparison. The other dealership showed no compassion, no empathy and no help. Your staff, who didn’t know me, who didn’t have a personal relationship with me, or had nothing to gain from a transient customer, bent over backwards for me.”

Needless to say I won’t be buying any more vehicles at the dealership in Illinois. But someday I might be driving through Washington Courthouse and decide I need a new vehicle from the Carroll Halliday dealership.

I’m certain we all have customer service stories to share. I have many more. Dealing with regulatory agencies, utilities, or communication companies quickly come to mind. I’m often reminded of the philosophy of Don Gallegos. Don created King Soopers Grocery stores, a very successful chain in Colorado. He says “The customer is not always right, but they are always the customer.”

All too often in our business or personal life we forget that we don’t have to always agree with someone. But if we try to understand them, walk a while in their shoes and show empathy, it could make an enormous difference. When you make things happen for someone, especially something good and unexpected, it makes their day and usually makes yours.

Until next time…

About ten years ago I ran across a book written by Julie Jansen entitled “You Want me to Work With Who?” Julie did a wonderful job of providing eleven keys to working with just about anybody. Five personality types she covered included:

The Poor Communicator
The Disrespectful Person
The Rigid Person
The No-Common Sense Wheel Reinventor
The Dysfunctional Decision Maker

Whether you’re in a small business, a corporate environment, or a volunteer organization you run into these personality types. There is one other type I wish Julie would have covered. The Narcissist. As I was researching to write this entry, I found this type to be an entire personality disorder. The germination of this disorder (NPD) occurs in childhood, where the person is made to feel no matter what they do, it is never good enough. They are given a set of unattainable goals and physically or more likely than not, emotionally abused. As adults, they give the impression they are always right and highly accomplished in any field, hobby or area of their choosing. Even when proven wrong, they will twist the truth or lay blame elsewhere.

In actuality, a person with NPD lacks self-confidence, self-esteem, and self-worth. They also have very little self-awareness. Instead they portray themselves as confident and secure. They take no responsibility for accountability. They abuse authority if given to them and manipulate situations to their benefit.

So how do you survive, cope, or associate with a person with NPD? It is NOT easy. My research, study and experience have taught me to learn to dance. By that I mean you must be able to be confident in your own skin. A person with NPD will do all they can to belittle, insult, or ridicule you in order to make themselves look better than you. Tearing you down builds themselves up, in their eyes. When the insults begin, simple consider the source and say “thank you for your opinion.” Then drop the subject or leave their presence. By handling things in this manner you take away a key lynch pin of a narcissist – their need to control people, things and situations.

Once you are comfortable in your own skin, the next step is to make sure your skin becomes your armor. You develop your armor by having the documented facts, that when challenged by the narcissist, are irrefutable. A person with NPD will never admit they are wrong or that you are right. However, they will withdraw when the facts are stacked against them. They may throw a temper tantrum, but with the facts on your side it won’t last and it actually exposes them for the narcissist they truly are.

Developing your own self-confidence and knowledge of information is like learning an emotional and intellectual “Texas Two-Step.” You can work or deal with any situation, person or personality. Just learn to dance and pretty soon the narcissist, who has always danced to the beat of their own drum, will be dancing alone – instead of leading while stepping on everybody’s toes.

Until next time….

In this election year we are certainly hearing our share of promises, hyperbole, pledges and double-talk. Often, I don’t know who or what to believe. I suspect I’m not alone. Regardless of your political ideology or personal party preference, one thing I feel confident in saying is this: No candidate is exhibiting a measure of congruence commensurate with their message points. Simply said, no one is walking their talk. Sadly, this is not a new phenomenon.

A congruent leader is the best kind of leader. A congruent leader is one who attracts and maintains a strong team. A congruent leader is comfortable walking in other people’s shoes and likely has done so. A congruent leader builds trust and support through their actions – not just their words.

I’m sure you’ve heard the phrase “that person talks a good game.” Unfortunately, talking a good game is becoming an art that is inhibiting growth and success in business, education, and our economy.

I’ve interviewed hundreds of people over the years. A polished interviewee has their message points and delivers them to the best of their ability. The key to finding the best candidate is asking about or understanding the accomplishments and results of the interviewee.

I’ve always been partial to result-oriented, thoughtful, congruent people. I tend to shy away from people who are long on sound bites and short on examples of their results.

Over the years, I’ve found the best place to look for a congruent person is in a volunteer organization. Usually that person is sharing their time and talents for the right reasons. They are there to support a cause or belief greater than themselves.

Years ago I met a couple of interviewees. Within five minutes it was obvious through their words and behavior they were not right for the job. They were consumed with what was in it for each of them. The decision to hire was not mine. To make a long story short, it took five years to rectify that hiring and even longer to recover from the damage done.

Recently, I had the great fortune to meet another couple. They weren’t interviewees. Instead they were humble, congruent, thoughtful volunteers. They are good communicators, but don’t use their words to self-promote. Their quiet effective actions speak volumes on their behalf.

So often we look to what someone says to inspire us. But personally, I’ve been inspired by this couple’s actions and results. You see, a congruent person who walks their talk has a FAR lasting effect on those around them. This couple’s behavior challenges me to want to do more and make a difference.

The world needs more people like this lady and man. Frankly, I long for that congruent person who makes a difference by what they accomplish rather than what they say.

Until next time…..

Picture this – It’s January. Three 18 inch long aged pieces of oak are crackling in the fireplace. An over-sized, multi-colored, Havanese is curled at my feet on the ottoman adjacent to my corduroy recliner. The sun is shining and the view from the front picture window is of pink, red and white camellias blooming in abundance. The setting in the cottage is perfect for reading.

I’ve always enjoyed a good book. Most people do. I’ve not yet been able to read a book off the iPad. I get too much pleasure from turning the page. I even enjoy looking at the book mark, to measure where I am in relation to the end. As I progress through the book, turning the pages becomes a reflection of my emotional attachment to the material. If it’s particularly good, I seem to turn the pages much quicker. Until I get near the end, when I seem to turn the pages in slow motion. Those last few pages are always the most difficult to turn. Why? Because I don’t want it to end. I want to read the conclusion or resolution, but I don’t want the experience to end.

Have you ever stopped to think how often we turn the page in life? The end of a job and the beginning of another. The end or the beginning of a relationship. Moving to a new home, new city, or unfamiliar geographic location. The addition of a child. The loss of a friend or relative. Learning a new skill or hobby. Letting go of a bad habit. Starting a diet. Becoming a vegetarian or a vegan. This list could go on for quite a while.

Like a good book, turning the page in life is often difficult. I frequently go through several stages when I’m faced with turning the page in life. I hesitate. I ponder. I lament. I get melancholy and nostalgic. Depending on the situation, I sometimes feel a sense of loss. I get butterflies. I rationalize both good and bad things. Then I step back and pull my emotions out of the situation. I have to do that in order to turn the page.

By extracting my emotions, my mind is able to think positive. I trade in the feeling of hesitation for anticipation. Instead of lamenting, being melancholy or nostalgic, I think eagerly forward with a child-like imagination.

Don’t get me wrong. Turning a page in life is not an easy undertaking. It takes focus, fortitude and faith. You have to believe in yourself and the change confronting you.

Dr. Blaine Lee put it best in the following quote:
“Any change, any loss, does not make us victims. Others can shake you, surprise you, disappoint you, but they can’t prevent you from acting, from taking the situation you’re presented with and moving on. No matter where you are in life, no matter what your situation, you can always do something. You always have a choice and the choice can be power.”

Turning the page in life is all about the seizing the power within us all and making positive choices. Through those positive choices, I and you will be able to face any challenge and move on to the next adventure in life.
Until next time….

For years now, I’ve always held Thanksgiving as my favorite holiday. I’ve been able to ignore the Black Friday chaos and purely focus on the feast, friends, family and football. Of course the number one focus is giving thanks and reflecting on all the blessings that surround me. This focus is certainly one that shouldn’t be just for one day or a four day weekend, but rather year-round. So this year, I’m expanding my Thanksgiving thoughts to the month of November.

I recall one Thanksgiving where we went around the table and actually said what we were thankful for. Not a bad exercise and it actually was good for a few laughs. With that memory in mind here are a half dozen things that come to my mind as I type.

* I’m thankful for all the beautiful leaves that have adorned the trees
* I’m thankful those leaves are now piled curbside – out of my yard
* I’m thankful for good health of family and friends
* I’m thankful for the miles of safe travel I have enjoyed this year
* I’m thankful to be spending Thanksgiving with my kids and granddaughter
* I’m thankful for the friendships I’ve made over my life

I regularly write about reaching out to old friends and staying connected. It energizes me and causes me to reflect on how blessed my life has been. The number of people that have come into my life to help me, befriend me, mentor me and care about me has always provided comfort. I am humbled by those relationships. Whether that person has been a long-term friend or just a brief encounter – I have valued the time we’ve shared. Some people can make lasting impressions in a short period of time. People you can trust, people you can count on and people who care about you have always made a difference in my life. I’m eternally grateful for those relationships.

I’ve also come to realize you’re never too old to make new friends. Sometimes the connection is instant and other times you have to work at it, but invariably it is worth the effort and time. That human connection is what drives our spirit.

Whenever I find myself stressed about one thing or another, focusing my brain on things I am thankful for has proven to be a wonderful method to pull me out of the vortex and into positive stream of consciousness. Reflecting on relationships, past and present always causes me to feel blessed.

Wishing you all a Thanksgiving holiday filled with a cornucopia of blessings to be thankful for every day of the year.
Until next time….

If you knew you would die tomorrow, or in a week, or in a month, would you live differently? This question has been asked so often its cliché. The answer is typically “Yes, of course I would.” People respond with things like this:

• I’d live with more zest
• I’d take more risks
• I’d focus on the positive and avoid negative thoughts
• I’d say all the things I’ve never told family and friends

But, we seldom, if ever, live like there is no tomorrow. It sounds wonderful, but reality in our own life seems to regularly get in the way. Our work, our families, our daily chores, our responsibilities, and our financial obligations are just a few of the reasons people don’t “live differently.” Looking beyond our own address we are faced with the problems of our country and our world making it not only easy, but almost routine to get hung up in a feeling of helplessness.

What we should or shouldn’t eat. Low fat, no fat, two percent, GMO, Gluten-Free, caffeine free, no salt and low salt just to scratch the surface.

Who do you believe about anything? The economy, national debt, illegal immigration, political correctness, political spin, political bias, entitlement programs, human rationalization, “it’s not my fault, but everyone else is to blame.”

So, how do you change that mindset? How do you remove those daily barriers to more zestful living?
It’s certainly a huge challenge, but one that can be addressed.

The first step is to recognize the limitations you put on yourself. Like that voice inside your head, recognizing the extra pressure and the daily grind you are feeling can’t be addressed until you admit and know it’s happening. Then put everything into a proper perspective.

Your second step is to mentally remove yourself from what you are thinking and doing. Once you have pulled away you can ask yourself “How do I approach this situation, individual, chore, or experience differently?” Another question I like to ask is “What is the worst thing that may happen if I do X or Y?” Answering those type of questions may provide a vision to approach life differently.

The third step is to be positive and DO NOT play the victim. All too often we diminish our abilities and thereby our lives by blaming others and rationalizing why things didn’t go our way. Many people think there are only two sides to a coin and two results to a circumstance – good or bad. Actually there are three sides to a coin. The edge is the difference between the two sides. Any Numismatist will tell you the edge is the third side of the coin, where different and unique perspectives may be found.

So I’d suggest we all start anew with these four steps and get to the small space few people venture to. The edge. I contend it will give you an edge in life. You will be able to take positive, meaningful steps toward zestful living. Maybe you’ll even fondly recall those days of running barefoot and drinking from the garden hose.

“Dream as if you will live forever. Live as if you will die today.”
James Dean
Until next time……